"From Where To Define you"

, Yesterday was the "Mother's Day".Everyone was wishing her mother "happy mother's day".But one thing i don't understand that is it a fashion today to wish your mother on the social networking sites-on fb, watsup,twitter etc...I have seen yesterday my facebook page was full of mothes day wishes.May be many of us has not wished our mothers by calling her or by meeting her but yes how can we forget to wish her on facebook..coz it's a trend now.Today everything we do, we must upload it on facebook and so how can we miss to wish our mothers on fb and watsup??

Leaving this point and coming to the importance of "mother".

Mother, as heared is the world's best person and without them life isn't life. And we can't give a definition to them,even we can't predict from where we should start to define her because definitions are given to those who have a limited way. Mothers love, her affection, dedication, sacrifice can't be measured,can't be defined and thats why she is a MOTHER. yes, she is the only one who ''ll always be there for you in need and even if u dont need them still she is always with you.Since my childhood i have heard that mothers love is unconditional.Yes, i do agree even everyone agrees to it.
Our mother is the first person who welcome you to this world and gave you her gentle first touch.She is the only one who is always ready to hold you  tight at the slighest indication of a fall.she won't mind to make her own life bitter just to give yo a better life.Only she can forget her cute laughs to make you laugh till ur life.yes only she can give up her desires so that you can fulfill your desires in life.

Truly she is a mother...........!!!

This blog of mine is dedicated to my mother without whom i can't imagine my life and to every mother who has made uncountable sacrifices ,bear unlimited pain and has done almost everything to make our life a better one, to make us happy and to make us laugh.Truly life can't be life without you and a home can't be home without you. You are the "strongest pillar"and the "biggest source of inspiration" for us.I am happy that i am a reflection of your's and you are my mother!!

Happy Mother's Day..!!!

Expectation

This is something which differs from person to person but hv a place in everones life.Yes you are right as the title signifies, i am talking about "EXPECTATION".
  Expectation has a different meaning for everybody.  Although I made introduction more than enough...wo khte hai n "sidhi bat no bkwas"so lets come to the point directly...lets talk about the word which I was thinking to tell you from past several days

There is a word EXPECTATION...every one is well known to this word. It is a very common word for every age group in today's life.

In reality if we see ...every day we all meet this word.Like if in the morning we sit for the breakfast and something comes on the table which you do not like you directly reject it just because the breakfast was not up to your expectations.

But do you think that how much the person would be disappointed who have made ur breakfast in the morning...??NO, we don't thinnk much but we should coz that person has an expectation that you would praise him for making breakfast for you.

Anyways lets have a look of other situations in life

When your parents drop you to school, provides you the best education and gives you all the possible facilities so that you can study well , you can live well and happy.Every parents in this world have their "Expectation" from you, from their child that one day their child would do such better things in life that the society will know ur parents by their name.Like wo sunte hai n hum "wo dkho DR.Anmol ke papa ja rhe h"

So basically here I just want my readers to focus on the point that "where there is an attachment, there is an expectation"


Lets come to the point what are our expectations from ourselves??


It would not be wrong to say that everyone of us have expectations with us.Like some of us wants that we should get good marks in exam, should get a good job and lastly a luxurious life according to our capacity and hard work.

But suppose if you are not up to your expectations then what'll you do?Because everyone is not so lucky that what they expect , they''ll get .

We should not be disappointed with ourselves because if you don't expect from yourself ,you can't expect it from others!!

 In every situation whether it be in good times or bad one,all of us expect or hope that at last everything would be fine and if it's not fine then clearly "its not the end"


Yes,sometimes you'll get disappointments,you''ll get rejections but that doesn't mean that you can't expect things from others.

I have heard that "the best possible way to be happy is to never expect anything from anyone"
 But I think its easy to say this but quiet hard to follow. Where the world exists, Expectations follows.

 All I know is that "Attachment leads to Expectations and sometimes expectations leads to disappointments"

Because I Luv You...

Prachi had came there only to saw Parth one last time n to hug him lyk never before.Parth was going to the famous "OXFORD UNIVERSITY"  to fulfill his dreams.After 2 years of hard work, he had finally got this opportunity. Both Parth and Prachi met 2 yrs ago in a coaching institute n till then they were like best friends.Parth considered Prachi only his best friend n shared almost everything about his lyf to Prachi. Parth was also Prachi's best friend but even she didn't know when n how her feelings for Parth developed, not like a friend. She really felt for Parth. She had never told him about this coz she feared if Parth wouldn't understand her feelings n if he leave her then...???. 

Parth was her secret love and she was happy with it.

At the airport,

She hugged Parth tightly like never before n with much difficulty, Prachi was hiding her tears.Shewished the  moment would stop there n she won't have to leave Parth. Hugging Parth ,Prachi was remembering the song which said lyk "lg ja gale ki phr ye hasin sham ho n ho, sayad phr is janam m mulaqat ho n ho...".

Now she understood why the songs were lyk this....!!!

The final announcement was made n this tym Parth had to leave from there, to leave Prachi , to leave Delhi n to leave his family too.He was becoming emotional leaving all these.But he had to leave all these to fullfill his dreams, his ambition for which he had waited for the last 2 years.

"Byee Prachi, tc n study hard n i know u''ll miss me...:p..:P...hehhehe."...!!! said Parth

Listeng this Prachi burst into tears n hugging him she replied "i''ll really miss u Parth evry moment spnt wid u were jst special n u r spceial in ur own way.tc..."

Parth said "acha itta spcl hu mai...:P...:P...."

Finally, parth had to leave and he was leaving.He said last good byee to everyone at the airport n then vanished from there

In the home-

Prachi was lying on her bed doing nothing. she was thinking that  if she would have told Parth about her feelings for him, would Part still leave her....???

Would Parth too luv her or treat her as a friend only.??

Prachi was thinking about the days when she believed  that she was not made for luv. she didn't believe in luv.Yeah, before meeting Parth, she was like this. She was the type of girl, for whom, her family her career was the most important n one should not leave her family, her ambitious for the so called luv. For  her, love was such a waste of time.

But as it is said "to understand something you have to experience it"

   Likewise,Prachi had experienced luv , she had experinced that being in luv is a special feeling n luv is the most beautiful feeling in the world. Parth had always made her feel special, everytime whenever she was with Parth she felt so special.She wished the moment would stop there.NO one had made her feel special like Parth.

She was in luv with Parthand was happy to be in love....

She could have stopped Parth at the aiport by any reasons if she wanted but she didn't .

Because all she wanted is his happiness and his happiness was in going abroad ,studying in his dream university and she was happy with that.

Thinking all these , a mesage from Parth came "hii reached london airport but missng u yrr"

His message made her day and she texted"great n don't miss me am alwz there for u....n focus on studies"

Prachi believed that somethings in life should be made secret and they should not be revealed anyway.Its better to keep some feelings only to u!!

Truly, some love stories  are meant to be only one sided n they are incomplete.!!!

But what makes them complete is the feelings and emotions of that person!!

Like  Prachi's love story was one sided but her feelings for Parth,  her sacrifice make her story complete.

Its All About Security...

This is something which most of the Indian Parents want for their children specially the girl child.Yeah, as the topic clarifies u i am talking about "security".Of course I do agree that security and safety is important and what our parents think is absolutely right. But what is really wrong in it is their over security for their children n specially for their daughter.

We  have heard that "Excess of everything is bad". Exactly this happens with over security.  If we have to live in excess security we would definitely be highly affected with it n just hate even the word "security".

What would happen if this security would make your lyf full of rules n restrictions??

Let us talk about some common thingsthat happen wid most of us usually in the name of security-

1. IF u r a girl and u jst want to take admision in Delhi, or wants to do intership there n suppose ur friens hv planned a trip to Delhi. How much of the Indian parents would agree wid this???

would they simply agree n permit u to roam to Delhi.??

The answer would be "NO"

Ofcoure, its the mindset of mostly parents that Delhi is not safe for girls(specially after the famous nirbhaya case)and girls should not go there for any purpose whether it be for your internship, for your college trip n even for your jobs. you just stay away from Delhi.

Is this fair for girls?? Is this we call Security??

just because most rape cases occur in Delhi it means girls should not go there.

why..???

If we are not secure in the country's capital., then i don't think so that anywhere we will be secure. This is not we call security that is we would not go to Delhi or somewheere else where our parents don't allow us then we 'll be secure. this is called restrictions n not security.

So Dear parents allow your daughters to roam anywhere they want as by doing this your daughters will become strong, confident n face the realities of the world.Don't stop them in the name of over security coz security is what we take in our own hands.

2.what would happen if ur parents wants you to study in girls cllg (or school) because u'll be more secure there??

The answer would be that ur  life become full of rules n restrictions. Yeah no doubt u''ll be secure there a lot no matter how many incidents occur everyday but still a girls college or school is the best place where u could be secure as compared to a co-ed college or school!!!

It doesn't matter your rights are violated(by following the rules that violate ur rights)  or  your lyf become frustrated (as u wont be able to enjoy without boys in ur cllg hehehe!!) n not because of boys only but because of too much restrictions in the name of providing security for you but yeah u''ll be secure here and ur parents would be satisfied with it coz all they need the most is theso called"security" for u.

3.What would u do when your life is full of security??

Obviously if someone is everytime stopped or restrains in the name of security n rules , he or she would definitely think that nothing in their lyf has  remain except security. what would he or she do with this security??

IF someone has doesn't see freedom, if they don't have the freedom of their choices, definitely that person would hate so much of security in lyf n even hate the word " security".

This is what the consequences would be if we live in a world of "excess security"

All in one I can summarise it is -

Dear parents, we respect you and luv u a lot . We know that you care for us n so you believe in our security.We do respect your feelings n even we need security in today's lyf .But what we want to say is that yes securty is good but yeah ,excess security, the over security is not good coz excess of everything is bad and  so with the consequences of security too.

No one is secure anywhere and  not even  secure in our homes.SO how can we expect for security in Delhi or other places if we are not getting security in our homes itself.???

So,Dear papa move on with your meaning of security n give us our freedom n believe in us coz we also want to face the world. For this all we need is the FREEDOM not the EXCESS SECURITY.

Things That Remain Unsaid.......

"Hey Riya,reply me yrr" texted Rohit at 10:30 p.m

Riya and Rohit were best friends since from the school days.Rohit was the type of guy which Riya never liked but still Rohit was her best friend n even she didn't know the reason why she was attracted towards Rohit- why he was her best friend?/?

May be thats why it is said "opposite attracts"!! 

"what do u want to know Rohit"???texted Riya at about 11:15 p.m

Rohit replied"Do u lyk like me  or do u have some feelings for me"??

After waiting for at least 15 minutes Riya texted"yeah, of course i lyk u...as a friend....:)..:)"

On the other side Rohit was eagerly waiting for her answer n he has just seen her message.Rohit thinks that why girls can't be just straight forward why girls cant give a simple answer to such a simple question.They are responsible on their own  for creating dilemma for themselves!!!Today Rohit believed that what he has always heard is true about girls that God has created girls but even He is not able to understand what is going on in a girls mind!!!This is something true about girls.

"yrr, dont u girls give a simple answer to a simple question u stupid girl...." replied Rohit

"shut up ,means u boys are so simple n straight forward rt....n r u..??" replied Riya

"yeah, boys are born to be shut up before girls  !!!okkkhh.....u lyk me as a friend i know yrr...i was just kidding" texted Rohit

"hmm...thats gud :P...:P" Riya texted

"Hey Riya, she don't lyk me  yrr bt i like her a lot . she is so pretty n hot....!!!" another mesasge by Rohit to Riya

"oh come on yrr this is the 7th grl whom u are calling preety n hot n aweesme. Don't u get tired of doing flirting to such an extent i mean be serious now n focus on ur studies first" replied Riya

"hey miss serious i m not flirting dear m serious i lyk her. should i tell her that i lyk her n how pretty she is??" Rohit answered

"okkhhh then tell her n do whatever u want to do. why r u asking  me...??.i don't care about all these." Riya replied

"hey what hapened to u....?? i was jst kiddng yrr m nt at all serious bt yeah i lyk her thats all ,u know me Riya..."Rohit texted

" hmm...i know bt u knw i get jealous whenever u talk about your other girl friends ."i don't know why is it so but yes it happens !!May be i feel insecure that someone will take u away from me n i''ll loss my best friend" texted Riya

"oh miss senti r u mad.... why u get jealous u are n will alwz be my friend n noone can take ur place in my life"Rohit replied

"hmm....ofcourse i know as noone has the capacity like me to tolerate u....heheehe....!!Riya replied

"hehehehe......really.....n noone lyk me too to tolerate such a heartless girl lyl you."...:P..:P replied Rohit

"kk i have to go right now. will catch u later .byeeee n gd nt!!"Riya replied

"gd nt dear swt dreams n tc"texted Rohit

Riya then switched off her lappy , lying on her bed n was thnkng why she get jealous about other girls in Rohit's lyf. Why she get effected by those girls, why??was this  due to the insecurity that she'll loss her best ffriend or there was somethnig else. ??why Rohit was her best friend -coz he was the type of guy she never liked.was there somethning that remain unsaid...??? with all these questions in her mind she took a deep breath n then she realised that it was due to her insecurity of loosing her best friend and nothnig else as Rohit was the only friend to whom she can share anything n Rohit understands her very much.

But still there was something which Riya was not understanding she was not satisfied with....!! what was that she even didn't know n may be she was just ignoring these.but yeah there were certain things that remain unsaid.......!....!!

Friendship

One day all of us will get separated and will remember our conversations on evrythning

n nothing.Days will pass into months,months into year n we'll remain in contact with

each other.Our children will ask"Who are these people in the photograph??"

we'll answer them with an invisible tears in our eye n say:"these are those people with whom i had the best memories of my lyf....."

Yeah, of course, I am talking about the friends n friendship-- the relation which we choose on our own.This blog is for all those people who believe that friends r the  best part of their lyf n have their best friends forever......!!!

Before talking about friendship, i would lyk to thank my bestiess in lyf without whom i would not be able to live in d heaven (or d hell )called hostel-not only in hostel bt lyf would be so boring without my bff-.thankss to them for always supporting me encouragng me n ofcourse for tolerating me.....(i m really irritating sometymes...).This blog is dedicated to all the persons who have their best friends forevr n hav the  best memories of their life.

Friendship -means different to differnt persons.but one thing that remains common in any friendship is d luv ,trust n ofcourse unlimited fun...mkng best memories that u cn hold it in ur heart forever.

Only in friendship u can share  almost everything - whether it be ur lnch box, pen, books n even the  answer sheets in exam or even u can share your bf n gf too...hhahahaa!!!.There are no secrets n no lies between friends.Or u can say all is fair in friendship.

In  summarised way only i can say is---

Yaaron dosti bdi hi hasin h 

ye n ho to kya phr bolo ye zindagi h!!!

so make friends go crazzy wid them live ur every moment wid ur bff qki 

"zindagi milegi n dobara dosto"

"Perfect Daughter"

Standing on the terrace, looking at the stars with the cold wiinds blowing ,she was thinking of the days when she used to  spent most of her tym wid her family specially with her Father. In her childhood her father told her a number of stories n one of them was the story of a "PERFECT DAUGHTER".Till that time she promised herself  that nomatter whatever the situation is n would be, no matter anyone would support her father or not, but she'll alwayzs prove her to be a Perfect Daughter.

Thinking about these childish memories , she was crying badly. she has now understood that everyone have had a childhood in which we are free to do anything,n no one cares for that. But as you grow up, everything changes whether it be  your habits,your carefree attitude, and of course your relation and attachment with ur family. 

All these things are happening to her, dont know why???  As sge grow up, she only talks to her father as a formality. everyone in her family are so busy that no one wanna understand that what she wants in her life ,what are her desires ,what she wants to be.Everyone are just putting  their decisions on her. She has now realised that being a "perfect daughter" is not easy.

To  be a Perfect Daughter, u have to follow your family's rule whether you like it or not, to respect your father's decisions without asking any question , to choose the path which your father asks you to choose, no matter u want to move on that path or not. To choose that profession which your family wants n specially your father.omatter u wanna become a singer, a model or an actor, if your father wants u to do Law , medical or engineering in your lyf then you have to do it. yeah  no matter what is your passion in lyf or what u want to do.

Because  the definition of perfect daughter is set up by the society, by the family n of course by almost everyone because  to be a perfect daughter, u have to be perfect according to your family ,your parents n of course the so called society.!!!

She was doing all these , has followed all the rules , never disobeys her father's decision, and has done everything in which she was least interested  but her father was the most interested one. That's why she has opted to do medical - the profession which she hated the most . But still for her father , to fulfill her promise of being a" perfect daughter" throughout her life. she has decided to do medical just to fulfill her father's dream because  girls love their father the most in their life because 

 "A father is a daughter's first luv "!!!

She has promised herself that no matter how old she grow, how much she would  luv her husband but her dad will always be her king. And for a king, her princess can do anything, can let go her desires, her wishes n almost everything that her dad doesn't likes because all she wants in her life is to be a "Perfect Daughter"

But  don't the society ,the family thinks that Is this a criteria that to be a perfect daughter u have to follow all the rules, follow all the decisions, to let go one's passion in lyf. Just because if a daughter disobeys these things ,she can't be regarded a "perfect daughter".??

She wants to ask just one question to every parents n specially to every father that:

Everyone says that no one is perfect, everyone has some imperfections, but everyone is special in their own way. Everyone has their own choices, own desires n own decisions in lyf.

Then  Why a Girl , a Daughter has to be Perfect , why she has to proof herself to be a perfct daughter???why  parents wants their daughter to follow all the rules set up by themselves. Why she can't follow her path, n if she follows her path , why she has to  face sarcastic comments -everywhere from her family to the  so called society???

The questions are many  but what would be the answer to it, everyone have a different opinions.!!